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Transgender Day of Remembrance

Written by Daniel Jones


Today we mark Transgender Day of Remembrance which occurs each year on 20 November. Our Unitarian candlelight ceremony will take place at Golders Green Unitarians this year. In 2023, our guest speaker was Dan Jones. Here we share his reflections from last year's ceremony on being a 'trans elder'. 



I am a white, non-disabled, housed trans man. As such, I recognise that I hold many

privileges. Most of the trans lives so tragically lost in the last year are black and

brown trans women and transfeminine people, whose lives have been taken by

transphobia, transmisogyny and racism. Although my body resonates with grief and

anger at the needless loss of so many trans lives, I do not move through the world in

a state of abject fear which so often comes with being visible as a trans person.


Where does transphobia come from? Many Indigenous communities around the

world have had more than two descriptors for gender and have recognised and

celebrated people who do not fit into the binary of ‘man’ and ‘woman’. The hijra

(third-gender people) of the Indian subcontinent evolved into communities during the

Dehli Sultanate and Mughal empire. In Japan, accounts of third gender people date

back to the 1600s and the Bugis of Suluwesi recognise a total of five genders. There

are many more examples besides these. The export of a rigid gender binary (along

with prohibitions against homosexuality) around the world can be situated as part of

colonialism. The ways in which Indigenous people have not complied with the

gender binary have been used as evidence by imperialists of moral inferiority, which

has legitimised violent and coercive practices. Transphobia and colonialism are

connected.


The medical treatment of trans people began in the early part of the twentieth

century. Magnus Hirschfield, a German Jewish doctor, specialised in sexual health


after the First World War. He saw the plight of gay soldiers, who were imprisoned for

their sexuality, and he rejected new psychological theories at the time, which viewed

homosexuality as inherently pathological. During his research, Hirschfield also

discovered that there were people whose nature was contrary to the gender

assigned to them at birth. In his Institute of Sexology, he found that such people’s

cross-gender feelings were unresponsive to talking therapies, and so he

recommended adaptation – facilitating them to live in accordance with their felt

gender. This led to his team performing the first gender-affirming surgeries by 1930.

He also recognised that trans people experienced discrimination in employment and

housing, and so offered a safe space for them to live and work. In 1933, Hitler

enacted policies to rid Germany of ‘lives unworthy of living’. The Nazis burnt all of

Hirschfield’s research material and books, virtually erasing his compassionate work

with trans people from history. Transphobia and fascism are also connected.


When I transitioned in my late teens, there was no internet, and I had never met

another trans person. I had little sense of what could be done for the profound

discomfort I felt in trying to inhabit my own body – my body was not the bedrock for

my being. I endured treatment with antipsychotic medication in an attempt to rid me

of my ‘psychosis’ of thinking that I was a boy before I eventually found my way into

the niche world of gender medicine. Once there, I received a psychiatric diagnosis of

gender dysphoria which allowed me to access the care I needed. My companions in

my journey were the elders who had recorded their gender journeys. I found myself

in the pages of their autobiographies, and they provided me with a sense that being

trans was a possible life.


In my early twenties, I was involved in activism in support of the trans community.

However, when I was about to train as a social worker, a well-intentioned colleague

cautioned me that I would not be allowed to work with vulnerable people, if I was

‘out’ as trans. Back then, there was no protection for trans people in employment. I

chose to largely disappear, and held the privilege to be able to do so.


Transgender bodies have become highly politicised in recent times. Over the past

ten years, trans people have become more visible in the mainstream. As Christopher

Paul Mollitt (2022, p.2) observes, there is a ‘…new generation of confident, vocal

and politically active trans people on social media’. They are lobbying for the right to

define themselves, independently of receiving a psychiatric diagnosis. It is in the

context of increasing visibility and the call for reform that we have seen the rise of

the ‘Gender Critical’ movement, whose proponents argue that trans rights are

antithetical to women’s rights, despite there being so many shared concerns

between the cisgender women and trans people. The Gender Critical movement has

been associated with a ‘moral panic’ about trans people, fuelled by the British media

and politicians. During my transition, there was the occasional ‘sex swap scandal’

story in the British press, but nothing like the targeted and orchestrated attacks we

have seen recently. If you are not trans, or close to a trans person, you may not

readily feel the impact of the daily ‘drip-feed’ of negativity towards us.


Recently, joining the psychotherapy profession, I have made a conscious decision to

be visible publicly as a trans therapist. Given my history, this feels like a risky


strategy. However, I find that, for trans clients particularly, my openness affords a

basic level of safety in a world which currently feels dangerous. As I approach my

fifties, I have become something of a ‘trans elder’ myself. Whilst I hold that

everyone’s journey is unique, I do provide an example of a life lived, despite all its

vicissitudes. I am once more involved in activism to try and make the world a little

safer for trans people in the ways in which I can have an influence.


I do not know whether this will reach any young trans people today. If you are

listening, I would like you to know that your trans elders are here for you and we are

fighting for you. I hold hope for a better future for us, more connected with the

cumulated global wisdom about gender diversity. The greatest ways to resist to

transphobia are for us to keep living our lives, to love and care for each other and to

find joy in the many, varied and beautiful ways there are to express gender.


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